First of all the real title should be: "What Does It Take To Be A Strong Woman?". This is a loaded question. With the equestrian industry in constant flux financially, having a steady approach to any field of the industry is key. You want to ride out the waves of inconsistency by combating it with consistency. Easier said than done right? This is where the word "strong" comes into play.
Here is what it takes to be a woman in the horse world:
- Leave out the strong for a minute because that comes later, for right now just do you.
-You have to be flexible.
- Let things roll of your back.
-Realize that what has worked with one horse might not work on the next.
-Always be on time.
-Know your goals and stick to them. Don't let others sway your path.
-Grit, ladies. Grit.
-Always lead with compassion for the animal (there is a lot of strength in compassion)
-Know your skill and hone it.
-Being a woman in general means multi-tasking and working twice as hard as the men out there.
Why? Because on some level it's just what's needed.
This is one of the reasons I became an ambassador for companies like Just Strong.
I love what I do. I help horses. I help people too ( I hope). But mainly, I'm in this for the horse. Everything I do with my business is focused on what I can do to be better, work harder and get results. Results is what I'm after. Not fads, not what is cool now. What I have seen work and what my clients see work. I love feed back. I love critical thinking and criticism even.
It's so easy to get bogged down when someone doesn't "understand" you.
Right? I mean, isn't that what we are all after anyway.
Business Is Your Bus-i-ness
Starting a business in this field of equine bodywork means that not everyone is going to understand you. But hey, that's okay. Results. Results. You show them through results.
Trainers, instructors, show managers, ride managers, breeders: you show them through results. Good achievements and good results are not always the same thing. What works doesn't always get recognized.
A strong woman, no matter what industry she happens to work or play in, means having integrity and standing up for what she believes in. OK this might sound cliche, but isn't it the truth!
Being guided by your "core frequency" as us cranial sacral advocates might say, is essential.
Who is guiding you?
Social media might be to some degree. Social media is simply people comparing people. Can I get an amen?
You could be guided by what your children will think of you. I mean this in a positive way. We want our kids to look up to us. But we also really want them to have a good example set out before them. Sure, let this one guide you all day long. "Kids" can also mean the kids you teach or mentor. Trainers can be so influential in this business.
You might be guided by a higher power or an inner strength. These are all great guides. In healthy ways we can use these to succeed.
A woman working in the equestrian world is not uncommon. In fact, it's common. More like 75% of all equestrians are women. That does not mean that we always make up the rules. A lot of times we follow them. This is a work in progress and that's ok.
Give them the results and the rest will fall in line.
Do your best and grind until it almost hurts.
Look for inspiration from others but stay true to yourself.
Unlock your potential by doing what you are already naturally good at.
It's never too late to start a new career or path.
You can stumble a million times and still make it to the top.
Did I say "results" enough times for you?
Being an equine bodyworker in Northern California means I have competition. A lot of it. But I don't like to think of my fellow healers as competitors. There is enough room in this world for everyone to succeed. Ego is never the key to unlocking potential. My sisters (and brothers) who heal are just as important as myself. But as long as you deliver great results, your business and your life will live up to the potential you see for yourself.
But first you have to see it.
Results come from hard work, being able to constantly learn and intake new information. Being a woman in the equine industry might mean long days, long hours, and a lot of "no thank you". You might have to chase down a check or two, or three. You might lose a client. You might gain a client that a friend or colleague had. You will most likely have bad business days. You will have bad days in general.
Finding out that you helped a horse who was in trouble can be very gratifying. Take that one and roll with it.
Do It For Them
Being strong means being nice, accepting and allowing the small stuff to evaporate.
Being strong means going to the barn because the horse needs you.
Being strong means doing the right thing when no one is watching.
Being strong means leading and being able to follow.
Being strong means having successes but not letting them define you as a person.
Being strong means remembering why you started in this whole equestrian world to begin with.
Do it for you. Do it for the horse. Do it for results.
Never look back, ladies!